Dear Patsi,
Please do hang around and ask questions when you feel the need. That's the best way to learn.
However, there is one area that asking questions expressing doubt can seem like a put-down -- and that's when someone is telling a story from their own experience. I believe this happened in threads in which Bonnie was venting because of sexual abuse in which a member of her family was victimized.
God is good, but the heart of humans is naturally full of evil. Only God can make it good, and He does it by giving us a new heart. It sometimes happens that people even get into positions of responsibility without first getting that new heart from the Lord. And eventually it will show in their actions: The evil will come out.
God has the remedy for that too -- it includes repentance, confession and restitutions insofar as possible. God can forgive anything and wipe our slates clean, but we have to understand that we need forgiveness. God doesn't force forgiveness on those who like to think they've done nothing wrong.
If you haven't already done so, I recommend reading the gospels of Mark, Luke and John to get a feel for the way Jesus related. You can follow that up with reading the gospel of Matthew, then, perhaps the book of Acts.
May God bless you as you learn and grow closer to Him.
Blessings,
Inga